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I found this link while reading an article about a couple who has been married for 83 years. Ironic.

Basically, it talks about how people cheating on their spouses is supposedly a "biological urge" and that we shouldn't condemn people who do act on these urges. And it talks about how it's natural to be attracted to others even if you are faithful to your spouse.

I know we can control things that are considered "natural". We can treat various illnesses with medicine. Depression and other mental disorders can also be treated in different ways. Are we as humans slaves to nature? No. We do a myriad of things everyday that could be considered "unnatural". Examples? Many of us wake up to the annoying sound of an alarm clock even when we haven't slept well the night before. We take showers when naturally, we get dirty. We brush our teeth because it is only natural for us to have bad breath. We comb our hair because it naturally gets messy. Do you see where I'm going with this?

However, I think this article could go under dating. I don't see anything wrong with dating a variety of people before settling on one. That is, as long as you aren't steadily dating several people at once. I think that's wrong. But the purpose of dating, in my opinion, is to eventually find someone you are not only attracted to but who is also compatible with you, not to mention someone you know you can be faithful to as well. If you are still romantically attracted to others even when you are steadily dating, then obviously you are not ready to get married.

I personally think these "urges" to cheat can and should be controlled. I don't see anything wrong with thinking someone else is attractive, but that's different from being attracted to them. Does that make sense?

Mother Nature is powerful, but she doesn't have to control us. We can control ourselves.